Just a Ring

I'm officially engaged!!! I am so happy, seriously, I have never been happier! As everyone knows, one of the perks of getting engaged for women is the rock. I knew mine wasn't going to be very expensive from the moment Kevin and I started taking about getting married. It took me awhile to become okay with a 'cheap' ring, but I really did become okay with it. In reality it's just a ring. Yes, I know just a ring that symbols you are planning on marrying, just a ring that you will wear for the rest of your life, but still just a ring. I would rather a cheap ring so that he can use the rest of the money in something more important like our life savings.
It felt awesome showing off my ring, and of course, only being two days into being engaged I still want too. A small price came with showing people, or should I say my sisters this ring.
The first sister who saw it, instantly compared it with her ring, and decided the diamond was about the same size. Kevin actually told me the price he had payed so as my sister was comparing the two rings I was thinking to myself that there's no point comparing, her's is obviously better than mine.
The next sister asked to see my ring, we talked about it a little and somewhere in the conversation I mentioned I didn't even know if it was a real diamond or not. She asked how much he paid, I told her. Then she gave me a funny look. Well um, it's probably real from somewhere, who knows where, but you can get real diamonds that cheap.
My next sister looked at it and asked me how much he paid I told her and then she told me it looks cheap. Do you think it looks cheap? I just answered her and said yeah it does kinda look cheap. Honestly, it doesn't really look cheap to me, I mean yeah I guess if you compare it to her crazy expensive ring then it probably does. I made sure she knew that the diamond is real and the gold they used isn't that cheap either. She told me the diamond might be real, but she doubts it has very many carets. Which is true, I know it doesn't, but why was she trying to downgrade my ring? After that she kept on saying things like, oh the band is gold, I thought you hated gold. Yeah, I never said that. I like gold.
Maybe I'm just reading in to all these encounters, but I sure felt like everyone was trying to make theirs seem better, or at least downgrade mine. When my first sister picked it up to compare, I know for a fact that if I were to be bigger she would feel bad, and if her's were bigger she would be happy. From my life experience that's what women do; we compare. We try to make ourselves sound better while downgrading anyone else who isn't a good as we seem to think we are. That's crazy. There's no need at all for us to be comparing things, whether it's as simply as each others clothes, or as big as comparing our lives. I'm not exactly sure what my second sister was trying to say, a diamond of China is just as valuable as one from here in America, but I guess in her mind it's different. Maybe she meant carets, I don't know. Now for my third sister, she was just being plain out mean. I mean really? You don't have to say everything you think, sometimes it really is better just to think before you speak. If you're gonna downgrade someone it's probably better just to keep your mouth shut. I felt like she was trying to make me not like my ring, but guess what; I still love it.
I have joked around and told people I'm not showing other people my ring, because I'm tired of the negative feedback just because it was "cheap". Of course I still plan on showing other people my ring, I might even give them the price if they ask, but what I'm not gonna do is I'm not going to let their rude comments bother me anymore. They bring me down, it's not worth it. This ring that he got me is something I can't change, and frankly, I don't want to change it, because although their rings might be more expensive,they might be prettier, they might have more carets, they might not have a band that came bend, but their rings aren't better then mine by any means. Kevin picked out my ring specifically for me. That makes mine the best. I don't need an expensive ring to symbolize that I plan on marrying this amazing man, heck I don't even need to ring, I just need him.

                                                                                                                                                03-11-2015